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What People are Saying

10 of 10 people found the following review helpful:
Marriage Lifeline, September 15, 2006
By freeezn (Alaska)

"My husband and I were days away from divorce. We were each given a copy of this book the night before our court appearance by a dear friend. He could see how much pain both of us were in and wanted desperately to help us. He had already attended The Arbinger Institutes training and had read all of their books; most recently, this book. He knew how powerful its message is to the right heart.
There was a lot that transpired during the 18 hours preceding the court hearing. A lot of this book was read. Hearts were softened & changed and two prideful, selfish individuals became new people. I don't use this lightly when I say it helped facilitate a miracle in our lives. We have a long ways to go, but at least we will be traveling it together and we now have hope for ourselves, and for our marriage and "The Anatomy of Peace" has much to do with it."


"Because of the Arbinger seminar, and the things I've been able to do because of it, I can honestly say that I am happier now than I've been at any time since I was 7 years old."
-- Grandmother

"The practical power of Arbinger's material is beyond compare--the ultimate."
-- Father

"I had no more answers. My daughter and I had lost the ability to communicate. The air around us was filled with demands. Her demands were vocal, material, and selfish. My demands were silent and resentful... After attending the Arbinger Seminar, I slowly began to recognise how my efforts to change my daughter's behaviour only made the problem between us worse. It is strange looking back now, how what I thought was love and concern was only control and pressure that she felt she needed to defend herself against."
-- Mother

"The ideas I learned in the seminar have transformed not only my approach to teaching, but my relationship with my colleagues. I have also been amazed at how readily these concepts can be understood and applied by high school students. I have seen some of them transform difficult parental relationships almost overnight. Arbinger's material is not just important, it's essential."
-- Teacher

"I was praying for less than I received."
-- Mother

"If I had to rank the things that have happened in my life, I'd have to put the Arbinger experience right at the top."
-- Father

"I was angry all of the time and fought with my mother everyday over anything. I was depressed and dark. Since attending the seminar I don't feel the need to fight with my mum anymore. I don't see her as the cause of my problems any longer. I see her as a mum who gets scared for her children and who loves me."
-- Young Adult

"This is going to help me and my marriage more than I can say."
-- Spouse

"I feel that the procedures learned in this seminar may change my very unhappy life."
-- Father

"I considered my husband too slow, too forgetful, and not proactive enough. It seemed I was running our lives single-handedly. I was exhausted, frustrated, and resentful... In my mind, changing my circumstances equalled changing my husband. Yet all my efforts to fix him not only met with zero results, they felt wrong. After the seminar, my eyes and heart were opened. I realized that my perception of my husband is distorted when my heart is of steel. But when my heart is right I see clearly: a consistently compassionate man with a keen, broad mind and a real sensitivity to others and to life. What a difference."
-- Spouse

"As a result of this experience, I will treat and look at others differently. It will change my life forever."
-- Young Adult

"This has been the best experience of my life. Thank you!"
-- Mother

"Arbinger's training is exactly what I needed, it opened my eyes. I just want more."
-- Young Adult

Rating: 5/5 - This book saved our marriage
The title of this book is rather misleading. The concepts so clearly and beautifully explained here apply to far more than just leadership. This book would be tremendously helpful to anyone in any sphere of life. My father sent it to us when my husband and I were on the brink of separation. I thought he was way off-base when I first got it, but we both read it to humour him. Once we started, we couldn't put it down. It has transformed both of us and saved our marriage. We're sending it to friends and family for Christmas. Although there's nothing really new, something about the way these ideas are presented enabled us to profoundly alter how we look at ourselves and the way we think about and deal with others. It was as if someone had given me emotional eyeglasses. Suddenly, emotionally complex situations looked clear and simple. Not necessarily easy to remedy, but at least I could see where I was going. It's hard to imagine anyone this book wouldn't benefit. And, no, I am not related to, nor do I know, anyone associated with this book. It probably won't be as life-changing for everyone else out there, but it's inexpensive, short, and easy to read. Do yourself a favour and get it!